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kenneth s posted an update
Hey Nelson, The course has already helped my rating considerably. (nearly 100 points)
I have a question that is a little off the wall. Do you have any suggestions for dealing with anxiety? I play at a rating between 1000 and 1200 with some games going higher or lower, but that is vs. the computer. However, vs a living opponent I get extremely anxious. So anxious that I can’t think clearly and have even mouse slipped because I was shaking so hard. Any help you can offer would be greatly appreciated.
Timothy C, Thijs and 2 others4 Comments-
Maybe black out the rest of the screen other than the chess board, having someone else start the game randomly selecting a chess bot or matching with a real person. You won’t know until after the game who/what you played and just focus on the chess.
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This is pretty tough to deal with, but take some time to think about what’s at stake if you lose. A lot of times, people put it all on the line in terms of their sense of self worth. Maybe with the help of a therapist you could drill down and examine what it really means to you, and try to work on challenging the thoughts and values that make losing feel like a really big deal. Another thing that might help is to try thinking about a game as an opportunity to analyze and learn, rather than placing so much value on the result (win or lose).
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Man…this resonates with me. Thank you.
Thinking about the game as a way to analyze and learn is where I need to get to. I put way too much on winning.
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As like you care to much about winning just get it in your head if you win all good if you lose you can use it a lesson and learn off analyze also it might help turn off showing there rating so when I play a opponent I only see there name I can’t see there rating to the game over
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